• Chapter Four: Self-Soothing

    Self-Soothing (Part 6: Journey to Self) As I have been moving forward on my journey to self, I have been stumbling over a substantial amount of ‘noise.’ The ‘noise’ is coming from the old parts of myself and my patterns that are continuing to block my attempts at becoming whole.  This noise is made up of self-doubt, fears, and anxieties, years of negative self talk and a mindset that I don’t ‘deserve’ the life that I have (in actuality) earned and disciplined myself for.  At times it is quite debilitating, feeling almost like I have been mummified, wrapped tightly in my own thoughts and the sensations these thoughts begin emanating…

  • Chapter Three: Labels, Descriptions, and Identifiers

    Labels, Descriptions, and Identifiers (Part 5: Journey to Self) This week we are going to ‘get real’ with ourselves!  This is the time to make lists, reflect, and evaluate.  The list we will be making will be made up of words we use to describe, label, and identify ourselves.  This list can be made up of concrete and/or abstract words.  I want you to include words that can be identified as feeling words as well.  For example, here is an excerpt from my list: humble               kind                   loving             scared…

  • Journey to Self: Overview and Preparations

    Overview and Preparations (Part 1: Journey to Self) I want to share an important journey with everyone.  This journey requires perhaps some new information and some that we have attempted before yet we weren’t quite ready to embrace.  This will be a journey that allows you to discover yourself, find meaning, and connect with others more graciously and authentically. As we prepare for this journey to self, I want to advise you that this requires only an open mind and heart.  There is no money to be spent, not much time to take away from your day, and no participation from those around you.  This is strictly and confidentially your…

  • The Process

    If your missed Part 1 Journey to Self: Overview and Preparations you may find it helpful to start there before reading about The Process. The Process (Part 2: Journey to Self) I wanted to start this journey-like adventure with the word ‘process.’  This is in fact what we are doing, change is a process, and as we will continue to learn, words carry a heavy load at times.  By this I am saying that (for me personally) if I hear the terms plan, program, routine, or schedule, my insides knot up and I pretty much go in with a negative attitude.  So, in effort to avoid a situation that creates some unintended…

  • Chapter One: Self-Acknowledgement

    Self-Acknowledgement (Part 3: Journey to Self) The first week of this process will be dedicated to acknowledging oneself.  I want you to practice this action in the morning possibly when you are in the bathroom preparing for your day.  Here is what I am asking you to do: Stand upright and face the mirror Place one hand (open) over your heart (yes, like the pledge) Look at yourself, you will probably be inclined to scan your self at this point since that is what we are used to doing when we look in the mirror, eventually it will be most beneficial to simply make eye contact with yourself Speaking out…

  • Chapter Two: Self-Recognition

    Self-Recognition (Part 4: Journey to Self) The second week of this process will be dedicated to recognizing oneself.  I want you to go about your day as you typically would and at the end of the day, preferably when you are lying in bed preparing to go to sleep, recognize something about yourself. The important part of this week will be behaving as you would typically yet with awareness.  What this week is not is going out of your way to be nice, thoughtful, helpful, encouraging, etc. It is very important to find the pieces of yourself that have been there, unrecognized or perhaps taken for granted, for quite some…